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The Art of Emotion Management for Better Leadership
NGHỆ THUẬT QUẢN LÝ CẢM XÚC TRONG LÃNH ĐẠO
Bạn có bao giờ nổi nóng rồi sau đó lại tiếc nuối vì đã lỡ nóng giận? Hay chỉ vì những áp lực cá nhân mà bạn khiến không khí làm việc chung trở nên nặng nề? Để quản lý cảm xúc bản thân tốt hơn và nhờ đó lãnh đạo hiệu quả hơn, hãy chia sẻ tình huống của bạn và nhận sự tự vấn trực tiếp từ Anphabe Advisor- Diễn giả , Thạc sỹ Xã hội học Trần Đình Dũng – Giám Đốc Điều Hành Khuê Văn Accademy.
Advisor:
Tran Dinh Dung
Founder and CEO
Khue Van Academy
Timing:
The discussion is open from 24-10-2012 to 24-11-2012
The advisor answered on 22-11-2012
How to control my personal emotion well?
This question is kind of out-of-date now, but I still want to raise it up as I think it could be good in the future.
Once, I was so stressful and tired. One of the staff made a mistake which was really bad. Having experienced the bad effects of bad temper, I tried to calm down before asking her this and that about the problem. However, she responded quite disapprovingly at what I said though she did understand that she had done something wrong. After that, I found out the cause of her annoyance. It was my facial expression! It brought into unexpected outcome. How difficult it was!
I would love to hear advices from Anphabe experts.
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- Trang Tran Thi Minh1351130183
I am not a manager like you but I think your problem is not only for managers but also for any individual. Many a time we may disappoint other people unexpectedly just by something we think we act normally.
A way to solve this is to practice in front of the mirror everyday, maybe every morning when you are doing make-up. Try as if you were talking to your staff member. Consider how you would feel if you were your staff member listening to you and seeing your facial expression. Try to vary your voice, change your gesture for several times to find the most acceptable expression for your listeners and rehearse over and over to get familiar with it.
Good luck.
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I am a supervisor and I face to the problems from my junior staff frequently. It concerns in the psychology in management. Closely with them to make a good relationship and willing to support them in any way, see and encourage in their effort. We can be friends, team, not only “ boss - staff”, it can be much easier for us to work with them when trouble arises, try to show “we need to solve problems as good as possible, not to judge your faults”.
Another thing I learn from my colleague-“Make it easy” thinking. No one can control all happened mistakes, but we can manage our feedback action. As our junior staffs, they can see clearly how you are to be a boss, and as a matter of course, they behave in their thinking, so I can understand it is very difficult to be a good boss, but we can do it, I am sure.
Hope you solve your problem well.
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As I know we normally treat the problems than the person... but I had to learn that treat the person than the problems. Sometimes, this solution can match with this person but the others cant. So I think you have to find out how your staff is, means how her personality style is. Then, after that you will know what is her strengths and weakness so you can maximize and minimize them. And one more thing, as a manger we should to understand her style so we can assign tasks to right person. Good luck. (^_^)
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Chào bạn,
Những biểu hiện của bạn là rất dễ hiểu và hay gặp, đặc biệt là đối với những người lãnh đạo còn trẻ tuổi. Thông thường, dù ở vị trí nào thì chúng ta cũng rất dễ bị cảm tính chi phối. Những phong cách lãnh đạo khác nhau cũng sẽ đem lại những phản ứng khác nhau của nhân viên, dù tích cực hay tiêu cực, đều ảnh hưởng trực tiếp đến kết quả cuối cùng.
Trong trường hợp của bạn, nếu nguyên nhân là do các biểu hiện trên khuôn mặt bạn khiến nhân viên khó thích ứng thì lời khuyên dành cho bạn chính là NỤ CƯỜI. Việc cười rất quan trọng và cười sao cho đạt được hiệu quả mình mong muốn không phải dễ. Để làm được như vậy, bên cạnh việc bạn nên thường xuyên nở nụ cười, bạn cần quan tâm cười sao cho thích hợp vào từng hoàn cảnh: cười sẽ xoa dịu các nét trên khuôn mặt, giảm stress, thể hiện sự thân thiện, thấu hiểu,…Đừng quá lo lắng, khuôn mặt bạn không có vấn đề gì cả khi bạn giữ được một nụ cười thật tươi.
Còn chìa khóa chung để kiểm soát cảm tính của mỗi người đó là luôn luôn hướng tới mục tiêu chung, mục tiêu cuối cùng và tôn trọng sự khác biệt trong một tập thể, một cộng đồng. Ai cũng có suy nghĩ và cách làm riêng để đạt được mục tiêu nên hãy lắng nghe trước khi quyết định bất cứ điều gì. Bên cạnh đó, nên cẩn thận tìm ra nguyên do chính xác khiến ta có cảm tính đó để tìm ra cách giải quyết cụ thể và triệt để. Sẽ tốn rất nhiều thời gian và công sức để một con người biết kiềm chế cảm xúc. Bởi đó là sự trải nhiệm và biết lắng nghe để thấu hiểu.Tuy nhiên, nếu kiên trì, chúng ta đều có thể thành công.
Chúc bạn may mắn và sớm kiềm chế được cảm tính của chính mình.
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I'm 24, of course not a leader and still young to control my personal emotion in work.
Currently, I'm in deep bad mood because of my mistake for leaving TVJV for an other workplace just because of my "self-pride"
I
thought I could be someone important, an effective secretary that
always the the right hand of my boss. But for some reason, my boss moved
me to an other department for original document controlling work. I
thought that I was underestimated and thought that I would do better
such as translating more legal documents, or doing financial reports for
our department or assisting him at his work as my previous position
always did.Then, just for a moment of anger and self-pride, i left to an other position at which I'm not really into it.
After
my leaving, I realized that, that position he moved me to was even more
important than my first position because that one has lots of works to
do, that I really have to communicate a lot with PMU and JACSince then, i keep blaming myself for such impatience and easy getting anger. I regret and wish that if only I could stay calm and reflect more thoroughly on what I really wanted and needed
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